Way too late Saturday night, I was thinking about the evolution of my digital life: websites, Facebook, and Twitter. In our modern society, our online presence can be another indicator of how we evolve – or don’t (keeping in mind it’s not one-size-fits-all). Check it out:
Websites
- Healing Through Reiki -> Courses of Healing -> The Reiki Life
- servicesrendered -> servicesbyellen (all gone)
- ellenslaughter -> flab-to-fab -> ellenmgregg
- Profile: Friends Only -> Everyone -> Everyone/Friends Only -> Friends Only
- Page: Healing Through Reiki -> Courses of Healing -> The Reiki Life
- Page: Services Rendered -> Ellen M. Gregg, Author
- @ellenmgregg -> @HotCoco65 -> @TheHealthyHealer -> @ellenmgregg_nh
When I typed out the above so I wouldn’t forget it, I felt a little embarrassed by what I perceived as an inability to “bloom where you’re planted.” I was bothered enough that I launched into some self-chastising, because that’s always helpful:
- “Why can’t you stick with one thing?”
- “Why do you have to change so much?”
- “Why can’t you be satisfied with the way things are?”
Really, Ellen? Helpful? Not so much. Not at all.
Yesterday afternoon I had lunch with my Ya-Yas. Wouldn’t you know it, one of the topics of conversation was about what I like to call tail-chasing: doing the same thing over and over.
Whether the results are good or bad – whether the tail is caught (yay! I win! now, let’s do it again!) or not (keep chasing! I’ll get it this time! next time! one of these times!) – you’re not really getting anywhere. There’s some comfort in tail-chasing. It’s safe. It’s familiar. It’s fun. (honest!)
Thing is, tail-chasing doesn’t get you anywhere, and it can tire you out and distract you from moving forward.
You don’t evolve when you revolve.
The discussion inspired me to think about my personal evolution. It seemed fitting, since yesterday marked my first official day of being in menopause. (Hooray!)
Self
- maiden -> woman -> crone (woman+)
Females who lives an extended number of years will evolve in a similar physical fashion by virtue of the aging process. Our individual experience, however, may be vastly different by virtue of the way in which we evolve – or don’t.
Resolve to Evolve
Resolving to evolve – to embrace change, to pursue personal growth – enables us to own and reap the rewards that come with being a crone. Then it’s up to us to accept those rewards and put them into practice, and continue to evolve.
I won’t be chastising myself anymore for my digital evolution. It’s symbolic – more, it’s illustrative – of my personal evolution. There is so much more I want to do, chasing my tail is not an option.
Are you a tail-chaser? Do you revolve, or do your prefer to evolve?
Psst! I’m down another pound this week. 
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I prefer to evolve and grow myself and believe I do, however, I may be wrong.
I definitely see you as an evolutionary, Bren.
Awww thanks Ellen
More evolving than not, these days, but, I’ve “been there, done all”.
The blog is definitely evolving!
“Been there, done all” < - LOL!
Well, well, well… I bet you’ve got some stories. 
I enjoy reading your blogs
<3
And I am delighted that 1) you’re reading them, and 2) you enjoy them. Also, I love you.
xoxo
I think I have been doing a lot of tail chasing in my life. It was only recently that I realize that I wanted to move away from the tail chasing and actually live my life. I have done through my blogging and all the wonderful online friends that I have met. I have notced that none you are afraid to dream or take a chance so I decided to get my feet wet and I love not being in a tail chasing situation all the time. I can not say I am cured but I will say that I am venturing out.
Cynthia, good for you! You know, I think it’s an ongoing choice, although I will say that once you get in the evolving mode, it almost becomes a habit. Almost. Thanks so much for commenting.
Many days I feel like that dog chasing my tail but I prefer to evolve. Something to work on Ellen
Well, from my perspective it doesn’t *look* like you’re chasing your tail. I wonder if progress can sometimes be so slow, it feels like tail-chasing?
I want to be with your Ya Yasssss!! Xx
You would fit right in, Kim.
xoxo
the definition of insanity is to do the same thing over and over and getting the same result — hoping i am NOT a tail chaser although some days i feel quite mad… lol!
great post doll!
xxoo!
It can be all too easy to slip into that cycle of insanity, Cyn. As for feeling quite mad, could be that if you’re feeling that way, you really aren’t for the sheer fact of noticing and recognizing it, if that makes sense. Thanks for stopping by, sweets!
xoxo